Monday, May 28, 2012

Take her to nursery, Part II

I thought last week was fun, but yesterday was even better.  I took Samantha out into the hall to she if she would fall asleep at the beginning of sunday school.  After about 5-10 minutes it was apparent that she was not going to sleep, so we headed back to class.  The door was open and who was sitting right there, the same sister as mentioned in the last post. The minute she saw us she replied, "take her down the hall to nursery, I can't take it anymore."

I scooped Sam up, promptly shut the door and went outside.

Luckily our lesson in relief society was on President Uchtdorf's talk from conference about not taking offense and not holding grudges.  Here is a piece from it:

This topic of judging others could actually be taught in a two-word sermon. When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following:
Stop it!
It’s that simple. We simply have to stop judging others and replace judgmental thoughts and feelings with a heart full of love for God and His children. God is our Father. We are His children. We are all brothers and sisters. I don’t know exactly how to articulate this point of not judging others with sufficient eloquence, passion, and persuasion to make it stick. I can quote scripture, I can try to expound doctrine, and I will even quote a bumper sticker I recently saw. It was attached to the back of a car whose driver appeared to be a little rough around the edges, but the words on the sticker taught an insightful lesson. It read, “Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you.”
We must recognize that we are all imperfect—that we are beggars before God. Haven’t we all, at one time or another, meekly approached the mercy seat and pleaded for grace? Haven’t we wished with all the energy of our souls for mercy—to be forgiven for the mistakes we have made and the sins we have committed?
To watch it, go here http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2012/04/the-merciful-obtain-mercy?lang=eng

I slowly felt my anger slipping away.  I think the Lord works like that.  He knows what we need to hear and let's the spirit touch our hearts.

A sweet friend pulled me aside between classes and assured me this is not her first offence and that a similar thing happened with her son before he went to nursery.  She also said, "at least she has a personality and isn't just a bump on a log".  I started thinking about that and I agree. I love that she is social and funny and that she makes people smile.  Several other people also assured me that I should just ignore the comments made.

I was starting to feel like Sunday's were monotonous, now I just never know what might happen.

7 comments:

Heather said...

Wow, that's really funny. That lady is a firecracker. I'd try not to sit near her if I were you! lol Just ignore her. She sounds grouchy. Your a good mom and Sam is a healthy, normal, active, good baby. I totally hear you about doing church by yourself. The other week at church Abby kicked the hymnal holder and knocked it off the back of the pew with a big bang, while Jake was squirming and crying and Emily was whining that she was thirsty. It was awesome.

Dave and Kathryn Dodds said...

Nothing is worse than ANYTHING people say when I'm alone at church. You are doing an amazing job! Samantha is perfect and you are too! Ry and Cam have definitely taught me patience with myself and others comments at church.
You're the best.

Brooke said...

Church can be SO hard with kids, especially when you're alone. It's true, don't let the comment get to you. Keep reminding yourself that you are doing the best you can! We were recently in a ward with LOTS of kids. The Bishop started stressing reverence in our ward and made it a point to say that what he was asking us to do as adults, did NOT apply to our children. Something to remember in the future. But I'm sorry about the comments.

Kristin and Tyler said...

Well, yet again...you're a better person than I am. I read this a day or two after you posted it and since then I have had not one, but TWO dreams in which I have told this lady off. Yep, it felt good. Real good. ...I wonder what she looks like in real life??? ;)
I have no doubt that you're the best mom ever!

Calli Potter said...

Linzi-
Let me just say that I literally gasped out loud when I read this! That woman should be ashamed of herself... and you are so much better than me because I would have told HER to go to nursery and relearn her manners! It amazes me how these ladies can forget all the years of struggling with their own kids through church, and take it upon themselves to destroy younger sisters who are doing their best just to make it through the hardest 3 hours of the week! (Can you tell I've had some issues with this topic!) You are a great Mom, and don't let that cranky old woman make you feel any less great! We miss you guys!
Calli

Mindy said...

Ditto! Ditto to all the comments! I'm sure you remember hearing about the reprimand our bishop gave the carondelet ward in st Louis about reverence, and about how if we couldn't control our children, we weren't welcome at church. James was around Samantha's age, and I cried for days. Our little babies (and older kids) are impossible to control because they are their own people and we don't control them like puppets. I wish more people understood that.

Doing church with kids by yourself is Hard, and I am shocked that that woman has the guts to say that to you. I'm so mad for you! But i am happy you have found some peace with it. You are a nicer person than me. My baby and I would sit by her, with rattling toys. And you are a rock star of a mom! Sam is healthy and happy. Perfect little baby.

Have you asked the nursery leaders if Sam can attend nursery early? Or if she can play in the room if you are there with her? Different nursery leaders have different policies, but it's worth asking about. Trying to deal with 13-18 month babies during Sunday school and RS is the worst!

Or even better, take her home so you can both get a nap. :)

Michelle Price said...

Gotta love Sister M! I'm glad you handled it well. Others of us have not. I was never brave enough to say anything back to her, but I for sure held a grudge for awhile. So thanks for being a good example to me!